Why do we somtimes feel like our situation is “not enough” or “not good enough”? What causes us to experience insecurities about ourselves and what can we do to challenge these negative thoughts?
Most people experience insecurities about themselves from time to time. It may feel like one’s situation is “not enough” or “not good enough”. But why do we feel that way? Here are some of the most well-known psychological mechanisms leading to feeling inadequate.
Inadequacy is often related to perfectionism. Perfectionism is a pursuit of being flawless in order to prove our worth and avoid criticism. E.g. by having high standards for oneself or by trying to control things.
But we tend to burden ourselves when we can’t live up to these expectations. Perfectionism can therefore easily make us feel inadequate.
Inadequacy is related to self-doubt. Self-doubt can be described as a lack of confidence in oneself or in one’s abilities.
When we doubt ourselves it becomes hard to recognize our successes, talents, accomplishments, and even worth. And that’s why self-doubt can lead to feeling inadequate.
Social comparison is a way to evaluate and make judgments about ourselves in comparison to others.
Comparing ourselves to others can easily make us feel like we “should” be like them or that we “ought to” have and do the things they do. Social comparison is therefore a mechanism that can make us feel inadequate.
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